When Stars Misguide Us

Do you end a long friendship with someone because they are negative, and say negative things about you and your life for no reason, no matter how nice and understanding you are to them?

Does the past hold any value to the present?

I am at a crossroads on a particular concept of friendship.

If a friend says rude, and sometimes heartbreaking things about you, and others, but you know that they only say these things because they are hurt inside, do you abandon them?

If you have a friend since childhood and grew up together does that hold any value to the relationship now?

If that friend was mean to you for more years in your life than nice does that matter?

At the present moment, they are nicer than years prior but still say things that bother you to your soul, and make you feel negative energy when you see them.

I am confused.

The question that I can’t answer would be “Do you end a long friendship with someone because they are negative, and say negative things about you and your life for no reason, no matter how nice and understanding you are to them?

Or do you keep showing them empathy year after year, meeting after meeting, and take the soulful beating?

Example of Confusion:

Me: Discussed some hardships in my life for a brief moment because my friend was trying to make me sound like a bad person and didn’t know the facts of my life story so I had to clear it up.

I pour out my words, and as I am speaking I can’t help but see a big smile on his face full of happiness. Midway in my conversation I stop and ask why are you so happy to hear my difficulties in life?

Friend responds: I am just happy to see you open up to me.

Why does this bother me and why did it make me feel like he was happy to hear me have difficulty in my life?

I am not sure.

At The Expense of My Soul

I have never abandoned someone because of the words that they spoke to me. I try to be a good friend and stick with people until they no longer want to be my friend or life happens and our relationship fades away.

With this ongoing negative relationship, it makes me think, why go on? What value is this providing for me or my friend?

While loyalty and empathy are admirable qualities, they shouldn’t come at the expense of my soul.

I understand that people change and can change, but I also understand that some people do not.

Some people live their lives with a certain mindset that can’t be altered, and can only grow stronger in the direction that they have been heading.

My empathy towards this friend isn’t because I knew them for years but rather it is only on the individual and human level.

I feel and care genuinely about this person’s existence.

Even though this person brings their negativity around me, if I could be a little spark of light in their life then I will put up with the rude remarks.

If I am this person’s only true friend how can I abandon them?

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